I know it’s really difficult sometimes to not joke about your significant other whenever you’re hanging out with your friends. It seems like you’re just saying something innocent & fun to make everyone laugh, but the reality is every joke has some truth to it. And on the other side of that joke is the person you’ve committed your life to. So it goes without saying that sharpening your ability to get better at these 3 things not to do in social settings will really strengthen your relationship.
1. Who Made the Mess. Just freaking pick up after yourself. I mean–really–is it that hard to use a clothes hanger or scrub a dish & throw it in the dishwasher?
1. Don’t go to bed angry. Sounds simple enough, but we all let silly arguments get the best of us and refuse to acknowledge the presence of the person lying in our bed. You should aim to start off each day fresh. Bringing in yesterday’s mess will always start your day off lousy.
I’d like to say that my wife and I are one of those perfect couples who’ve done it all right–but that type of relationship just doesn’t exist. At least, not in real life. I think one of the hardest things to really [truthfully & honestly] do in a relationship is to acknowledge, understand and accept your significant others’ perspective. I mean, we say all of the time, “I understand where you’re coming from, BUT…”
There’s always someone better, smarter or willing to sacrifice more than you to be number one. [ In America ] we forget we don’t have to be number one to be fully satisfied with ourselves. We live with a “winner-takes-all” mentality and lose sight there’s room enough to go around. Instead of celebrating those we want to be like, we secretly wish they’d crumble. You should always applaud those better than you–wether you feel like it or not.
I wear my emotions on my sleeve, as they say.
It’s always been difficult for me to mask my reactions. Somehow what I’m thinking and feeling on the inside gets displayed perfectly on my pale face for everyone to witness.
This is especially challenging when I really don’t want people to read my reaction to situations. More importantly than what other people think though, is the way that our emotions can flip the switch on how our day is going.
Being an envious or jealous person is, as we know, a very undesirable trait to carry on a daily basis. It will leave you feeling empty & alone––like a huge hole sits inside of you. These two emotions are a power duo that when consumed in excess will mess up your freakin’ mind. But … what if they aren’t all that bad?
We all desire to live a balanced life of work, fun & family, but it isn’t easy. In fact, some days it feels dang near impossible to get right.
Living in the real world of tasks, deadlines, bills, relationships, marriage … it can get pretty overwhelming to say the least. So what’s a guy & gal to do when you want to live a balanced life but can’t quite hit the mark? Well, the answer is easy … but you may not love it.
Ya know, there’s a real danger to being passive. Being passive is not a character trait, it is a character flaw. In our life we have many opportunities to be passive about different situations. We say it’s “OK” and we act like things don’t bother us and “it isn’t that big of a deal”. When, on the inside we are screaming and yelling because what we’re really wanting to say isn’t coming out.
Information will only take you so far. Passion is the real grit inside of a person that drives you to do something beyond that would have never done before. See – you gotta reach deep inside of you soul to find the true grit and substance of who you are.